Psalm 139:7 “Where shall I go from your Spirit? Or where shall I flee from your presence?”
There is nowhere that we could run or hide from our Heavenly Father. If you are one of His, He is always with you. We all have flaws and insecurities; some of us are broken from the damage that the world has done to us, but despite all of these things, the Most High has given us all gifts and life. Often we draw inspiration from others and think, ”If that had been me, I don’t think I could have survived what he or she went through”. But the key words are “went through”, meaning that they didn’t or maybe couldn’t dodge it but had to confront the problem no matter how huge and little by little work through it.
This post is about healing in order to reach our full potential. For me, reaching my full potential means finding my purpose. Each of us has one….some of us more. I feel that in order to feel whole, one must have a purpose. Our purpose comes from The Most High. We fight against the things that are often seen as difficult, we fight change because change makes us uncomfortable. This is His voice actually whispering to us what we ought to do. Here are a few things that I’ve discovered along the way to healing. I’m still not done but each day I’m learning how to move forward.
Tip #1- Go back and examine
If and when you get anxiety or laziness about doing something, whether it be a new or old task, or it may be worry about how you’ll tackle a problem, try to examine why you feel this way. Maybe it comes from a childhood experience that took your confidence down. If you can understand your hesitance at confronting the issue, that’s a huge step forward already. It goes against everything in us to go back to that place of discomfort or pain, but well worth it to understand what’s going on with us so that we don’t stay in that same place year after year…decades.
I’ll give you and example of why this is important. As many of you know, I began a journey to better health about 3 years ago. I could’ve started this years ago but I had anxiety like many of failure and change. When I began to unpack why and discovered that I was afraid of putting in all of the work like juicing, cutting way back on dairy, meat, refined foods, etc, because I didn’t want it not to work and I would have wasted all of that time and effort. At the end of the matter, I said to myself, ”So What”. It came from always being the only African American in many accelerated courses in high school, in my college courses as a Pharmacist, on my residency after college and on all of my jobs. I was so used to trying to “represent” my ethnic group and not being a disappointment that I subconsciously put that pressure on myself in almost every aspect of my life. (me above college 1992) If I could go back and tell my young self anything it would be, “Girlfriend you got this, only worry about pleasing The Most High and all will work out”.
Tip #2- Break large goals into steps
Let’s say you want to lose 50 pounds. If we look at it in terms of 50 pounds, most of us would never get started on the weight loss. As a matter of fact, a better way to look at it is what lifestyle changes do I need to make in order to be healthy. The weight will naturally come off if we make healthy lifestyle changes. Start with small things like finding a healthy substitute for sugar. There are so many natural ways to sweeten our food and drink. Another personal example: I received an herbal tea bag from a coworker and was told to please make us both a cup of tea for our break. Well before my journey to better health, I was using 3 teaspoons of brown sugar and about 1-2 teaspoons of honey (and had the nerve to include ginger and lemon…lol). I made the same cup of tea for my coworker and was asked how much sugar I used. When I told her, she said, ” Oh my goodness! No wonder I’m bouncing off the walls!” If I tried to go back to the way I used to make tea, I wouldn’t be able to tolerate it. My taste buds would reject the over sweetened tea. If we make changes in increments, but very deliberate and keep adding on healthy changes, in a few months to a year you will definitely see the difference. Set your goals whether it be to decrease sodium by replacing with potassium salt, or using agave or other natural sweeteners instead of sugar, incorporating juicing and replacing one cup of fruit and veggie smoothie with one meal a day. In time you will arrive at the ultimate goal…..50 pounds weight loss!!!💪🏿🏆💪🏿🏆💪🏿🏆💪🏿🏆
Tip #3- As stated above, self-care isn’t selfish
We must learn that saying no or perhaps at a later time is okay sometimes. If we abuse ourselves to the point where we have nothing left day after day after day, we’re not only no good to ourselves, we can’t help or serve anyone else effectively. This is when a depression sets in. We become sleep deprived, mentally drained, grouchy and just plain toxic to be around. Each and every one of us needs to do self-care and be spiritually grounded in order to fulfill our purpose. When we don’t do the things that refuel us, notice how quickly we come out of our place of peace. For me it’s continuing to cultivate my relationship with The Most High and taking time out daily to do one thing good for myself. That may be something I love such as working with my window garden, squeezing in some sewing or a workout, or just taking in my favorite series, even if no more than 30 minutes. Studying the Word is always a must as well.
Tip #4- Love is a healer
You can never go wrong by having a support system, starting with the Heavenly Father. He will never fail you. Whether they be close family members or friends, share your fears, your goals and what you feel your strengths are. Above all, never be that one that tries to give the least, after all, we’re all here to be of service to one another. It has been proven in multiple studies that people that are givers are the happiest and most at peace. Of course there is a balance to that (refer to tip #2 😊).